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A lot of the femdom and gentle femdom stuff I see on here contains a lot of couples/people in committed romantic or bdsm relationships. As an inexperienced domme not looking for any relationships atm, what’s the best way I can introduce femdom or at least elements of femdom to casual sex partners?

soft-hearted-mistress:

(((18+ ADVICE)))

 You definitely don’t have to be in a committed relationship in order to enjoy elements of a D/s lifestyle. I think my number one tip would be to just be upfront about your dominance when you choose a partner (temporary or permanent). Let them know that you would like to take charge. Then based off their reaction you can decide whether to continue or not. You just have to find partners who are comfortable being submissive in nature. Other than that, I think it would be fairly simple to introduce elements of femdom into your casual sexual partners. Just be open with them and maybe keep a few “tools” on hand for more options in case you do make it that far. Even just some good quality rope or bondage restraints could be a great starter. Then when you start getting intimate, you have more to play with. Ask them if they’ve ever been dominated before. If they haven’t, ask if they’d like to try. Then if they say yes, give them your rules for the scene, set a safe word and get to work tying them up (add a blindfold if either party is feeling too shy or self-conscious. This is my personal favorite tip. It seems that when you cut off one person’s sight, it allows both to be more open to what’s happening without judgment.) Then just have your fun. I hope this is helpful ❤️ Good luck! ~M

Thanks for the great advice!

Humiliation but not that kind of humiliation

dommesuggestions:

brewmeasubmissive:

Does anyone else get that? I know that in a lot of femdom porn it’s “You’re a worthless worm, you don’t deserve me, you’re not a man, lock up your cock, you’re acting like girl and that’s shameful, wear panties because haha it’s humiliating” etc and I’m repulsed by that. For one, worm is such a sad comparison, I’d never feel aroused by anyone who I could compare to one, and secondly traditionally feminine things are not tools of humiliation – not for me. Panties are nice, but only because panties are pretty and look nice. Not because they’re a tool for degradation.

But that doesn’t mean I’m not into Humiliation. For me, humiliation is making a boy blush, making him squirm. I just don’t want to use panties or worm comparisons to get him there.

Is it more about shame? Telling a boy he’s a slut, and using his body for your own pleasure. And making him acknowledge it and wallow a little in the shame of it.

Or is it embarrassment? Telling a boy that he needs to open his mouth for you because he’s a good little boy, because he’s willing to do anything for you, because he’s easy and so very lovely to push and smack.

Or is it objectification? Making a boy present himself, a visceral lustfulness taking over you as you watch him, touch him and tell him that he’s your pretty boy, your handsome sub.

Sometimes it’s humiliation, too. That he’s just there to serve you, he can be your footstool, because that’s what he’s good for. A place to rest an ashtray on, maybe. A hot thrill of humiliation would probably run through him, then. But through it he’s still a man, a boy, still worth /something/ even if it’s just what you’ve decided he’ll be for now.

I think it’s a little bit like love, like a the sharp sting of a cane and the dull thud of a paddle. Different but so lovely.

man this is my SHIT right here