Tag: topping from the bottom

How much experience as sub do you have and how would you estimate your dom/sub ratio?

I haven’t yet had any proper experiences as a sub, although with vanilla partners, wherein neither of us are dom(me) or sub, I tend to bottom, although this may be simply be because I am quite petite, pretty unfit, and a sometimes a little bit lazy – it’s always easier to let the guy do the heavy lifting 😂. I do like to be physically ‘dominated’ and manhandled, and love being on both the giving and receiving ends of rough, primal sex, but beyond that, I’m not naturally particularly submissive at all. This is why I identify as a dominant bottom. I would be willing to try it with the right partner, however. 

So I would estimate by domme/sub ratio to be probably ~ 80:20. My top/bottom ration would be closer to ~ 40:60. Thanks for the ask 😊

In your opinion is there such a thing as a dominant bottom? I am a domme/possibly switch with both sadistic and masochistic tendencies, and still like being on the receiving end of rough sex/manhandling while still remaining in control. However there seems to be some controversy amongst online bdsm communities whether or not ‘topping from the bottom’ is legitimate.

soft-hearted-mistress:

   Topping from the bottom is absolutely legitimate and a valid form of Domming. There’s no reason in the world why you shouldn’t be able to explore both sides of your nature at the same time, and this seems like the best way to do it in my opinion. I actually consider myself active in this type of play. I’m prominently a Domme to my sub, but I still have that side of me that wants to be topped. It’s always been a part of me and I don’t feel it’s fair to have to completely dismiss it in order to be a Domme. In my eyes it’s not about who’s on the bottom; It’s all about who’s holding the leash 💋 ~M

Confessions of a sadomasochistic domme/switch

I love rough sex, and I still love being ravaged by a man:

Being manhandled, my breasts grabbed, feeling their strong hands around my throat, having my hair pulled and my ass spanked red, being fucked senseless into the bed, having my perfect pussy and ass pounded until I scream…

But ultimately they do this for me because I demand it of them. Because I want it; I enjoy it. I control my pleasure, and I also control theirs. They do not cum unless I tell them to. Because they are mine to use as I please. And I use them to their fullest extent, until we are both spent, sweaty, and satisfied.