Tag: submission

What would you do to drive a sub crazy?

Apologies for the belated reply. It depends on the guy and their specific kinks/fetishes. But obviously the easiest and funnest is through tease and denial: pleasing them, edging them, controlling them. I give them a taste of what they want, and then take it away; let them know that it’s there, dangle it in front of their faces, but don’t let them have it; even when I’m pleasing them, I taunt them, reminding them that I control their pleasure, and I can just as easily take it away or punish them. There are few things more frustrating than simply not being able to have something tangibly within one’s grasps.

And to make it even better (or worse, depending on your perspective), I take my time, slowly building up to pleasing them. I toy with them, teasing them with kisses and caresses, leaving their senses on edge and them anxious with anticipation of what’s to come. It is this psychological and physical loss of control and frustration that keeps them begging and subservient. 

serveyourneeds:

lavenderbutts:

As soon as you walk through that door, your clothes come off boy, and with them your mask comes off too, the mask you wear everyday at work and that makes everyone believe you’re a strong, dominant man.

As soon as you walk through that door you’re mine, my precious boy, my little slut, my toy to use however I want, my little servant who will do anything to please me, my caged, denied little pet.

How does it feel to walk around all day hiding it, without anyone knowing what you really are? It must be exhausting, sweet boy.

It’s okay now, you can stop pretending. I’m here and I’ll take control of you.

On your knees, pet.

This writing speaks to me in ways I cannot even describe.

I often walk through the day feeling like I am hiding an important part of myself. I try to find ways to let the submissive side of me show. Finding ways to please and help others for example.

But no matter what I do, I am not fully me. It’s only those moments when I can physically shed my clothes and metaphorically shed the societal pressure and judgment and be open with the person I will serve that I am fully me, and more importantly fully hers. Thank you @lavenderbutts for beautifully capturing those feelings

How much experience as sub do you have and how would you estimate your dom/sub ratio?

I haven’t yet had any proper experiences as a sub, although with vanilla partners, wherein neither of us are dom(me) or sub, I tend to bottom, although this may be simply be because I am quite petite, pretty unfit, and a sometimes a little bit lazy – it’s always easier to let the guy do the heavy lifting 😂. I do like to be physically ‘dominated’ and manhandled, and love being on both the giving and receiving ends of rough, primal sex, but beyond that, I’m not naturally particularly submissive at all. This is why I identify as a dominant bottom. I would be willing to try it with the right partner, however. 

So I would estimate by domme/sub ratio to be probably ~ 80:20. My top/bottom ration would be closer to ~ 40:60. Thanks for the ask 😊

Do you enjoy hummilating your sub? If so how do you prefer to humilate them?

I’m personality not too much into humiliation, although I wouldn’t mind doing it if a sub specifically requested it. The furthest I’d usually go is sexual objectification, referring to them as my sex slave or slut. I’m more about positive reinforcement, pampering them telling them they’re a good boy or a good slave. I like to see and treat my partners, whether they are submissive or not, as equal and not lesser than me, both inside and outside the bedroom, even though we may play with a domme/sub dynamic.

Thanks for the ask 😊