Tag: sub

Unpopular femdom opinion

lonely-gfd-cutie:

I think that trope of a domme having her sub go down on her while she looks completely disinterested or is distracting herself with something else is trash. 

If I’m a sub, my primary desire is in making my domme feel good. If I’m going down on her I want to have an orgasm or at least enjoy herself. If I see my domme (or really any partner) looking disinterested or not enjoying themselves during I’m going to want to stop and talk to them. Ask if their enjoying it or if not could I be doing anything differently to make things better. 

Perhaps there is something I’m missing but I don’t want someone who’s going to dominate me but be bored while doing so. I want a woman who dominates me because she likes to do so as much as I like to submit to her.

Enjoyment in my partner is a turn on. Boredom is a turn off.

Updated Library For Kinksters

dominantlife:

I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…

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How much experience as sub do you have and how would you estimate your dom/sub ratio?

I haven’t yet had any proper experiences as a sub, although with vanilla partners, wherein neither of us are dom(me) or sub, I tend to bottom, although this may be simply be because I am quite petite, pretty unfit, and a sometimes a little bit lazy – it’s always easier to let the guy do the heavy lifting 😂. I do like to be physically ‘dominated’ and manhandled, and love being on both the giving and receiving ends of rough, primal sex, but beyond that, I’m not naturally particularly submissive at all. This is why I identify as a dominant bottom. I would be willing to try it with the right partner, however. 

So I would estimate by domme/sub ratio to be probably ~ 80:20. My top/bottom ration would be closer to ~ 40:60. Thanks for the ask 😊

What do you enjoy most doing to a sub?

Apologies for the late reply; I haven’t really had the time recently to properly manage my blog. But thanks for the asks!

I haven’t had that much experience domming yet (where art thou, young submissive men!), but I absolutely love edging, or any other form of orgasm control. The way they squirm and moan, the way their breath quickens and their legs shake… Whether I’m top, bottom, or domme, we both know that I am still in control of their pleasure, so I please them, over and over again, tormenting them with pleasure until they are begging and breathless, but never allowing release unless I command it. And few things are more satisfying to either of us than when I finally allow them to cum. The sheer intensity of their pleasure in that moment – their thick cum gushing out of their throbbing cock, as they gasp and moan – is a reward for their performance, and almost equally orgasmic for me to experience with them. 

dirtythingsthatturnmeonposts:

lady-reia:

softandsquishygfd:

friendly reminder: 

you are no less of a sub if you aren’t into pegging, chastity, prolonged denial, pain or masochism (even the gentle kind). You can be submissive by nature and still not wish to be degraded, humiliated, or tortured. It’s okay to be submissive in the way you choose to be submissive. 

And you are no less of a Domme if you have a massive praise kink, or just want to spoil a sub, and pamper them. You can still be dominant by nature and not want to hurt your sub, degrade them, use corporal punishment or call them names. You can still be dominant and want to worship your sub with soft kisses, gentle touches and whispered praise in the dark. It’s okay to be dominant how you choose to be dominant.

Express your kink how you want to express your kink. I promise, there is someone out there who enjoys it the same way you do. 

At its core, D/s is a power exchange dynamic. And you are allowed to give or take control however you please (with consent) and please please please don’t let the glamorized and idolized Tumblr-centric view of D/s dynamics taint or color the way you value your dominance or submission because you don’t fit in the stereotypical boxes that are represented on this platform. 

EDIT: I am not intending to kink shame ANYONE, but I’ve noticed the Tumblr community focuses a large amount on the degrading aspects of BDSM, and that’s not everyone’s kink, for various reasons. And I wanted to write something supportive for those more into the lighter side of things. I promise, I don’t give a flying flip how you express your kink. that’s kind of my entire point. 

Wonderfully said, @softandsquishygfd! Many times a guy approaches me and starts apologizing right off the bat for not being into that kind of BDSM. You like what you like and NO ONE can say otherwise.

Well said indeed, @softandsquishygfd. Speaking for me and my babyboy; team gentle is in the house. ❤️

kinkyprettythingsandme:

cute-femdom:

Yknow, I just want my sub to know how cute he is. I wish he could see himself from my eyes. He’d never doubt it again. Seriously! He’s like the cutest thing I’ve ever layed eyes on. His fucking moans when I take him in my mouth and his nervous laugh when I check him out.

I like pulling his hips into mine and kissing him. He just melts whenever I take initiative. If I slap him it’s like his eyes just start begging for more.

If I tug his lip with my thumb he will just open it for me.

It’s such a satisfying and scary feeling having someone trust you so much. I want to hold and protect him forever.

Yes, this.