Every now and then Sophie enjoyed giving her unsuspecting boyfriend a….. perhaps not so subtle… reminder that at any particular moment he was at risk of her pouncing and simply having her way with him…..
A list of ideas and activities for dominant women to use on their submissive male partners… to tease, humiliate, discipline, punish, and torment him.
Ways to Tease Him
– Tease Your slave to get him to the point where he’ll “Do Anything to please You” – Make him strip naked while You keep Your clothes on. – Have him kneel before You and kiss Your feet. – Have him address You as ‘Mistress’ – Have him kiss Your ass…make him beg to kiss Your ass. – Tie his hands and have him undress You with his mouth/teeth. – Don’t let him masturbate or touch his cock without Your permission at any time. – Tie his hands behind his back. Have him kneel with knees spread naked in front of You while You read or watch TV, occasionally nudging his balls or penis with Your shoes. – Either order him to stay erect, or don’t give him permission to have a hard on… either way, punish him if he fails! – Use some strong string (kite string), tie a slip noose in the end and tighten it around the head of the penis, tug on it, pull it shake it, lead him with it, whatever You please. – Show Your slave Your panty crotch, make him smell it, but no touching without permission. – Tie Your slave spread eagle to the bed and tease him for hours. Make sure he has a big hard on, but once he does only touch it when he needs just a little more encouragement, don’t let him cum. -Put on his favorite lingerie and tease him with Your beauty. -Scratch him with Your finger nails. -Tickle him. Pinch his nipples. -Sit on his chest and find out what he would do to be allowed to kiss Your nipple. Let him almost kiss it but pull away, make him beg. -Take a break, put some worn panties over his face and leave the room for a while and let him think about what else You might do. -Squat above his face, make him reach with his tongue to taste the crotch of Your panties…get more promises -Blindfold him and make him lick You to several orgasms. Take a break, cum back and do it all again. – Rub his face against Your pussy or sit on his face, but gag him with Your panties or a gag so that he can’t lick You. – Tie his balls off to something behind him so he has to tug on them to smell Your panties or kiss Your ass…stay just out of reach. – Masturbate in front of him. Use a dildo or a vibrator. – Put the base of the dildo in his mouth and make him satisfy You with it. Do it so his nose presses between Your ass cheeks. He’ll be Your little brown noser and love it. – Make him lick the dildo clean. – Tie him down to the bed and tie his hands to his penis but do not give him permission to cum with harsh punishments for disobedience. – Put Your worn panties over his head so he can smell your odor. – Make him wear a cock ring (a watch strap or cat collar works well)
Ways to Humiliate Him
– Make him wear Your panties or lingerie, dress him up as a little girl or a French maid. – Make him do housework naked or dressed in women’s clothes. – Have him pamper You, have him: – give You a foot/back/full body massage – give You a pedicure/manicure, – paint Your finger/toe nails. – bathe You/shave your legs. – cook and serve You a nice dinner. – Make him hand wash Your panties and lingerie. – Make him polish Your shoes with his tongue. – Make him wear a collar and lead him around with a leash, like a dog. – Attach a leash to his balls or cock ring, and lead him around with that. – Tie it off in front of the sink while he does the dishes. – Ride him around as Your pony boy…spurs? a riding crop? – Dress him up like the slut that he is, wear a strap-on dildo and make him beg to suck it. fuck him. (don’t forget the fuck-me red lipstick!) – Make him wear Your panties or lingerie under his regular clothes when he goes out or goes to work so that he will think of his Mistress constantly. – Make him masturbate for You, make him beg for permission to cum, don’t let him, punish him if he does. – Make him screw himself with a dildo. – Make him earn his rewards; for example: – Allow him to kiss Your ass after the dishes are done. – 1 minute of pleasure for him for 10 minutes of Yours. 5 minutes of pleasure for him after he makes You cum 5 times. Spank him 10 times for each minute it takes him to make You cum. – If You think he’s earned an orgasm, make him cum on Your feet or Your ass and then make him lick You clean. – Order him to bring himself to the edge of orgasm and stay there until You give him permission. When You give the command he must cum within 5 seconds or he will be punished and/or not allowed to cum at all. (keep him that way for 30 minutes, an hour…or as long as You want) – If he’s really horny and bothering You, You may want to curb his interest by ordering him to jerk off 5 or 6 times in a row. Use it as skin conditioner… 3 times on each foot, have him spread it around and lick them clean after each time. – Always make him lick You clean after sex. – When You go out, order him to tie himself up, be naked or dressed up as a girl and be kneeling at the door for when You arrive. – Lock a padlock on his balls. – Give him a golden shower. – Make him think of a new way for You to humiliate him. Punish him if You don’t think it’s good enough. Make him post it to the net (and send it to me to add to the list)
Ways to Discipline and Punish and Torment Him
– Spank or whip him. (wooden spoon, hair brush, belt, ruler, ping pong paddle, riding crop, switch, cat-o-nine tails…) – Tie him in an uncomfortable position. – Tie his ankles together and attach his balls to them. – Hog tied. (wrists and ankles tied together) – Hanging from the ceiling by his wrists. – In a chair with his knees pulled up to his shoulders – good for spanking and everything is exposed and vulnerable. – Tie up his balls and cock with a long leather thong, clothes line, or boot lace. Use a long piece, and wrap the base and balls repeatedly. Do each ball separately. Tie tight loops around his shaft from base to tip then tie the end off back between his legs and up to a belt or to his handcuffs. – Make him wear a chastity belt or cock cage. – Attach clothes pins or nipple clips to his nipples, balls, cock or wherever. – Put a butt plug in his ass. Or get out the strap-on. – Enema. – Double up on his domestic chores, make them more difficult: tie his hands; make him use a toothbrush to clean the toilet, tie his ankles with a short chain and make him wear extra high heels. – Deny him orgasms for a long period of time. – Have him lick You clean after you pee. – Put Ben-gay or icy-hot on his penis and nipples. – Drip candle wax on him. – Make him do exercises (jumping jacks, leg spreads, squats, aerobics, yoga…) – Humiliate him in public…take him shopping for panties/lingerie
I really want someone who will use these methods with me
Hi, anon. This is a lot to unpack, but I’ll try my best to give a nuanced explanation. It’s honestly okay not to understand sex, but some of the ideas you have here do have the potential to be harmful. Sex positivity is both supporting those who don’t want to have sex and supporting those who do because both groups are shamed for their choices.
There’s nothing inherently wrong with sexual attraction. For those who experience it, it’s completely natural.
Sexual attraction is not inherently predatory. If two people both want to have sex with one another, nobody is being taken advantage of. Sex isn’t tricking or trapping people into pleasuring you. It’s consensual activity that all parties agree upon and are enthusiastic about.
Some people deal with their libido solely by masturbation. Some people have sex. There is nothing greedy or selfish about having sex. It’s just a decision that people can make to feel good or bond. It’s just another way for people to meet their needs.
The issue isn’t with sexual attraction so much as objectification. Someone can look at another person and finding them to be extremely sexually desirable and still respect their boundaries and treat them kindly without expecting anything in return. Someone asking another person if they’d like to have sex with them isn’t automatically objectifying them. You can see someone as a whole person and still want to have sex with them. If someone were to look at another person and only see them as objects for their own sexual gratification (such as when people get upset when someone won’t have sex with them) that’s where there’s an enormous issue of entitlement to someone else’s body.
Wanting to have sex with someone doesn’t automatically set up a power dynamic. Sometimes it just comes down to which person prefers to be penetrated/do the penetrating because they like the sensation, if penetration is involved at all. A lot of sex doesn’t involve any sort of topping/bottoming or dominating/submitting (which is addressed more in the next paragraph). Sometimes sex is just people taking turns giving one another orgasms through various types of stimulation. If one person in a relationship doesn’t like to reciprocate oral sex or something similar, that can be an issue, but it also might be something that their partner is fine with. One person only wanting to receive/give a sex act isn’t inherently bad or selfish.
The idea of domination in sex is a whole different ball game. That’s where kink comes into play.
Kink is not inherently objectifying either. It’s just different ways that some people like to achieve sexual gratification. Kink also goes beyond spanking and bondage. It can involve praise, roleplay, and other things that aren’t BDSM. It’s not the 50 shades of gray narrative (which actually is abusive and an awful example of both kink and relationships in general) that most people think encompasses all of kink. Again, if all parties involved are giving enthusiastic consent and understand what is being done, nobody is being taken advantage of.
Sex involving “make them do stuff” isn’t sex, it’s rape. If all parties
involved aren’t consenting to everything happening without coercion, it’s rape.
If someone feels like they’re being objectified or controlled through sex, then that is an unhealthy relationship. Unhealthy sexual relationships exist and are often glorified by society and media, but that doesn’t mean that sex is inherently unhealthy. It is very possible for someone to have sexual encounters and relationships that don’t make them feel demeaned or manipulated, but actually make them feel empowered as a person.
I hope that this provided some insight. It’s 100% okay if you want to talk more.
Note: I do not participate in kink and am not sexually active. I strive to be a sex and kink
positive feminist and I’m open to anything I said here being corrected
or added onto.
Daydreaming about choking you gently while I ride you to my orgasm. Listening to you whimper and moan while you try and keep your hips still. While you try so hard not to cum yourself. It’s making me so much wetter.
Carnavalesque 