A PM from a Follower, abstracted in the interests of privacy …
“Tell me about funishment. I’ve seen you ref it a couple of times. If it’s punishment, how is it fun?”
This is a great question. Here’s the thing: it’s all down to context and intent. So, let’s use spanking for example …
In the context of punishment, both people are going to feel low and bad, because the intent of punishment is to address an infraction. In effect, the submissive has failed, and also the Dominant has failed by not creating the proper environment for the submissive to succeed. Anyone who doesn’t feel bad administering/receiving a punishment spanking has a fundamental misunderstanding of what punishment is about.
In the context of therapeutic spanking (i.e., “maintenance discipline”), the intent is to give the submissive something the submissive needs to become calm, still, and in a better place psychologically and emotionally. The “catharsis of tears” can be a wonderful gift from the Dominant to the submissive.
In the context of sexual play, the intent of a spanking is mutual arousal. This is the “funishment” you asked about. Two people who feel bad about a punishment spanking will get hard/wet when it’s in the context of sex.
So, you see, it’s the same act, but in different contexts, and with different intent, it means very different things.
My muse has to pick one or the other. They have to pick one. Not neither, not both.
Submissive or Dominant? Whips or Chains? Handcuffs or Shibari? Pillow Princess or Power Bottom? Voyeur or
Exhibitionist? Blindfolds or Spreader Bars? Butt Plugs or
Vibrators? Edging or Multiple Rounds? Knots or Ovipositor? Spanking or Scratching? Ball Gag or Muzzle? Strap on or Double
Sided Dildo? On on one or Group Sex? Vanilla or Kinky? Lengthy Cocks or Girthy Cocks? Small Boobs or Large Boobs? Ass
or Chests? Thighs or Arms? Hot Wax or Knifeplay? Loud or Quiet? Biting or Sucking? Collars or Piercings? Costumes or Lingerie Monogamy or Polyamory? Laughing and silliness during sex or
Intensity and power struggle during sex? Fucking a Virgin or
Fucking someone with experience? Face to face or from behind? Phone sex or Sexting? Cumming
inside or Cumming outside Being filled or Bukkake Dirty Talk or Degradation? Role play or Porn on in the background? Public Edging or Filming
in the Bedroom? Condom or Bareback? Lube or Raw? Video Call Masturbation or Sexy Selfies? Blood Play or Breath Play? Face fucking or Anal sex? Leather or PVC? Morning Sex or Evening Sex? Clothes on or
Clothes off?
From ohms88.tumblr.com on their inspiration for pegging:
“The exquisite feeling of penetration, of being opened, that gorgeous violation as the oiled cock went in.
Too gentle, too delicious, up to the hilt, and then rocking back and forth, and slow buzzing pleasure coursing through all my limbs from that one heated little mouth. God, If she had only rammed it, made it a damned rape. No, she was fucking me. Which was even worse. She worked it like it was a part of her, the soft rubber scrotum warm against me, just like her hot naked belly and her hot little thighs.
My legs spread out. There was that overpowering sensation of being filled, being skewered, and yet that rich, exquisite friction. I hated her. And I was loving it. I couldn’t stop. It!!”
This book started it all! Exit to Eden page 138. The romance of pegging all starts here!
Idk man I just feel like if a submissive respects me enough in their relationship with me they wouldn’t step out of line? Loving and supporting them seems to work really well ☺️
You Do Not “Keep A Sub In Line” as if they were an animal or prisoner.
You provide structure, care and support that INSPIRES THEIR SUBMISSION TO YOU.
You CANNOT force submission. I’ll say again: You CANNOT force submission.
If you want your submissive to behave a certain way, you MUST FIRST GET THEIR CONSENT for that to be a rule within your dynamic. And THE TWO OF YOU must discuss AGREED UPON consequences.
If your sub is not in agreement with you then you are shit outta luck buddy. They are not inspired to submit to whatever fuckwitted asshattery you’ve drummed up in your tiny fake Dom brain.
Carnavalesque 