playfully-sadistic:

Doms can be soft

Doms can be sensitive or self-conscious

Doms are allowed to cry

Doms can deal with mental illnesses, like depression or anxiety

Doms need aftercare

Doms are valid even if they don’t act dominant or leading 24/7

Doms have feelings, too, and are allowed to show them

Doms need to trust their sub, as much as the other way around

Doms might get triggered during sessions

Doms can get mentally or physically abused by their sub (!!!!)

Doms might need the care of their sub sometimes

Doms are HUMAN and therefor you – as a sub – shouldn’t shame them for being exactly that, just because in your fantasy you always imagined a dom to be a certain way and act certain way. You – as a sub – need to accept that sometimes your fantasy is exactly just that, and it’d be abusive and unhealthy to force that image onto a real human being.

Doms like to be in control, we like to do it sexually and sometimes also in a not sexual way. But we are still humans. We have needs and insecurities, and as a sub you should always accept these and take care of your dom, and never force them to do something they don’t feel comfortable with.

We always talk about abusive doms and fake doms – it’s time we face the cruel truth that there are plenty of abusive and fake subs.