“Funishment”

sensualdominantion:

iamnotblushingyet:

instructor144:

A PM from a Follower, abstracted in the interests of privacy …

“Tell me about funishment. I’ve seen you ref it a couple of times. If it’s punishment, how is it fun?”

This is a great question. Here’s the thing: it’s all down to context and intent. So, let’s use spanking for example …

In the context of punishment, both people are going to feel low and bad, because the intent of punishment is to address an infraction. In effect, the submissive has failed, and also the Dominant has failed by not creating the proper environment for the submissive to succeed. Anyone who doesn’t feel bad administering/receiving a punishment spanking has a fundamental misunderstanding of what punishment is about.

In the context of therapeutic spanking (i.e., “maintenance discipline”), the intent is to give the submissive something the submissive needs to become calm, still, and in a better place psychologically and emotionally. The “catharsis of tears” can be a wonderful gift from the Dominant to the submissive.

In the context of sexual play, the intent of a spanking is mutual arousal. This is the “funishment” you asked about. Two people who feel bad about a punishment spanking will get hard/wet when it’s in the context of sex.

So, you see, it’s the same act, but in different contexts, and with different intent, it means very different things.

“The more you know.” You know. In case you don’t.