i think every guy is guilty of this, every person really, when they’re horny, myself included.
Stop looking for someone for your kinks, unless you’re willing to pay them.
If i’m looking for someone just to go rock climbing with, who knows what they’re about, and they’re going to know all the good spots and have gear…. i’m probably paying for a guide.
Now, that isn’t to say that i can’t meet someone at a rock gym or a site, strike up a conversation, get to know them, and maybe something develops.
What i’m saying is, if you’re looking for someone to fulfill your fantasy, best bet, pay a pro.
If you’re looking for a partner, best bet, look for a partner, a friend, someone to laugh with, to know as a person, and if they’re kinky, bonus, if they’re open to exploring with you, even better.